Twenty Truths to Consider about Fifty Shades of Grey

50-shades-of-greyI’ll admit it: Sometimes we Christians are known more for what we’re against than what we are for in this world. Sometimes we make a big deal about things that may not be that important and forget to focus on the things that really do matter most. Sometimes we get all high-and-mighty and act as if we’re better than others.

I know.

But sometimes we do need to take a stand and speak the truth in love. William Wilberforce was a devout believer who fought against slavery in England. Martin Luther King, Jr. was also a believer who stood against racial inequity. In fact, throughout history, Christians have often been at the center of the battle for truth and justice.

Typically, I loathe jumping on trendy bandwagons. I’m well aware that many Christian bloggers are sounding off about the movie Fifty Shades of Grey. However, I am terribly disturbed by our culture that continues to normalize the abnormal. Inch by inch, we are marched to the edge of immorality and degradation and told, “It’s okay, this is normal, and if you challenge me on that then you’re just intolerant!”

50 Shades Bandwagon

Well, sometimes it’s good to be intolerant, especially when we are standing with Jesus who loved all but hated sin. For the record, He hates sin because of what it does to the people He loves.

So here are some good reasons to avoid this bad movie like the plague:

  1. It breaks Jesus’ heart.

  2. Jesus would never treat another human created in the image of God this way. As Christ-followers, neither should we.

  3. This kind of “love” is harmful and destructive rather than selfless and wholesome.

  4. The Bible describes love as “kind . . . it does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking . . . it does not delight in evil . . . it always protects.” (1 Cor. 13:4-7)

  5. It’s not just BDSM (which sounds harmless); it’s bondage, domination, sadism, and masochism.

  6. Emotional, physical, and spiritual bondage is always bad.

  7. Dominance is the exact opposite of supportive, selfless love.

  8. Sadism is defined as a desire to inflict pain on others, especially for sexual gratification, or is defined as getting pleasure from being extremely cruel. Seriously? This is okay?

  9. The definition of masochism is getting sexual or emotional pleasure from being mistreated or mentally or physically abused.

  10. Anything that promotes abuse of any kind should be offensive to us.

  11. We won’t tolerate a football player knocking his girlfriend out in an elevator, but as long as it’s consensual and erotic, it’s okay. Are you kidding me? It’s still abuse.

  12. It promotes lust.

  13. Lust is never satisfied.

  14. We don’t need anything else filling our minds with garbage (there’s enough of that on TV).

  15. When it comes to pornography or sexual abuse, the “law of depreciating returns” means that the more one participates, the more graphic or intense our experience needs to become to get the same erotic response. Simply put: we become emotionally calloused and need weirder, wackier stuff to arouse us.

  16. Consenting adults (married or not) who claim BDSM enhances their relationship are broken. Something, somewhere in their past has created a fracture in their soul, and they need healing, not abuse.

  17. This movie (from what I’ve read in reviews and seen in trailers and posters) appeals to our human nature that tends to drift out of curiosity to what can kill us (think Adam and Eve in the garden). Unholy curiosity (i.e. unwise experimentation) can kill more than a cat.

  18. As a parent and grandparent, I would never want my daughter or son treated this way.

  19. In an interview on NBC the female star, Dakota Johnson, said, “I don’t want my parents to see this movie.”

  20. Everything we do should honor and glorify the One who gave His everything for us (1 Cor. 10:31). Can anyone truly make a reasonable argument that BDSM honors Jesus?

50 Shades Collar

I realize I’m swimming upstream on this one. Over 100 million people have read this book, and the movie grossed over $250 million on the opening weekend (a new record). However, my challenge is simple: Would you sit next to Jesus and watch this film? I think not.

As James Emery White recently wrote, “Celebrate sex this Valentine’s Day. Every day, for that matter. But not the fallen kind. Not the Fifty Shades of Grey distortion.”

So guard your heart, protect your mind, and honor Jesus. He died to set people free.

50 Shades Fish


For you know that we dealt with each of you

as a father deals with his own children,

encouraging, comforting and urging you

to live lives worthy of God,

who calls you into his kingdom and glory.

1 Thessalonians 2:11-12 (NIV)


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Kurt Bubna

Kurt W. Bubna has published seven books, is an internationally recognized blogger, conference and retreat speaker, as well as an experienced life and leadership coach. Bubna has over forty years of experience working with individuals, teams, and a wide variety of business and non-profit organizations.