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Christmas 2016 ~ From Our Heart and Home to Yours!

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Like a lot of you, I typically get to December and think, “I’ve gotta get my annual Christmas letter done soon!” And then for days, as I procrastinate, I start to remember and reflect on all that has happened over the past twelve months.

  • The birth of our 8th grandchild, Lupine, to Isaac and Tiffany. 

  • My first trip to Africa to participate in the Purpose Driven All Africa Pastors Conference. 

  • Celebrating 41 years of marriage to my best friend. 

  • Another missions trip to Guatemala. 

  • Publication of my 6th book and 2nd children’s book, Bye-Bye Monsters

  • An awesome vacation at the beach in San Clemente. 

  • Nearly 14 years of pastoring Eastpoint Church in Spokane Valley. 

Naturally, the year presented some unexpected events and circumstances, but I have so much to be grateful for at this stage in my life I dare not complain.

I recently asked my ten-year-old granddaughter, Adelle, what she likes most about Christmas. She thought for a moment, smiled, and said, “Family!”

That pretty much sums it up for me too, but I would say family and friends. Of course, I value and honor the goodness of God who loved us so much He sent His son to love and redeem us. Unquestionably, I enjoy this wonderful season of celebration and joy. And yes, my wife’s Christmas baking always makes me smile (and fat).

But you matter to Laura and me. Whether we connect face-to-face, via Facebook, or through an occasional call or email, the people in our life are a gift to us . . . people like you.

The older we get, the more we realize the wisdom and blessing in collecting friends rather than possessions.

I hope this Christmas you remember our love for you, and I pray this next year you experience all God has for you and yours.

You are loved!

Merry Christmas and Hope-filled New Year,

Kurt & Laura Bubna

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  1. Thank you! We love you and Laura and have been more than blessed to a part of the Eastpoint family!

    • We still have the Christmas “ornament” of Bobby on our tree! 🙂 You guys are very special to us! Love you and your family too! Merry Christmas!

Bye-Bye Monsters ~ Face Your Fear!

Bye-Bye Monsters ~ Face Your Fear!

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Boo Fixed CoverFear is a challenge for many. As a father and grandfather, I’ve tried to help my little ones learn how to face their fears. I wrote this rhyming story for children to provide the opportunity for you to help your kids or grandkids overcome their fears.

Publishing an illustrated book (with 20 full-color pages) and two coloring pages is pricey. In fact, this book has twice the number pages of my first children’s book, Pete the Prodigal Pumpkin. So, if you love kid’s books with a clear lesson and fantastic illustrations, please go here to find out more about Bye-Bye Monsters and how you can help get this book into the hands of many children.

Thank you!

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Age to Age: What Boomers and Millennials Can Learn from Each Other

Age to Age: What Boomers and Millennials Can Learn from Each Other

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Recently, my incredible wife turned sixty. She’s a year older than I am (I think that makes her a cougar!), and even more beautiful to me than the day I first met her in Ms. Nute’s high school choir class in 1973. We’ve been a couple for over forty-two years and celebrate our forty-first wedding anniversary in just a few weeks.

If you’re young, like under thirty, you think sixty years of life and forty-plus years of marriage is a looooong time. In reality, it’s just a grain of sand on the beach of eternity.

If you’re old(er), like over fifty, you know how weird it is to look at the face in the mirror and wonder, when did I become a senior citizen?

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Let me make some observations about age for both the young and the not-so-young.

If you’re young . . .

  • Live in the present. Months turn into decades before you know it, so savor the moments you have right now. Don’t waste the great gift of time. In fact, don’t wait until you’re old to live on purpose. “Bucket lists” are common among the elderly primarily because they’ve waited too long to take risks and to make every moment count.

  • Plan for the future. Living an abundant life of purpose and living fully in the moment, don’t mean you live without a view to the future. Just the opposite, in fact. Yes, be present today, but live prepared for the future because it will be here sooner than you think.

  • Stop throwing boomers under the bus. Sure, you may be better educated, and you have more facts and information jammed into your skull than your parents or grandparents do. Yup, you are hip (is that word still used?), and technologically savvy, and you have nice hair. However, there is no substitute for experience. The seniors in your life have learned a lot of lessons, some the hard way; glean from their knowledge. Listen more, and ask for their wisdom when you need it even if you don’t think you do.

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If you’re old(er) . . .

  • Stop living in the past. Okay, you’ve lived a long and productive life, but it’s kind of sad if the only thing you ever celebrate are your past experiences. Nobody under thirty cares about the impressive risk you took that paid off back in 1970 if you’re not taking any risks today. The problem with being old is that we stop being active (and we watch too much reality TV). Don’t go there. In fact, people will care far more about your past when they see you’re doing far more than just talking about the good ‘ole days from the comfort of your Lazy-Boy. Engage. Live. Take some new risks. You ain’t dead yet!

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  • Accept your limitations. You’re never going to run a four-minute mile (or maybe even a ten-minute mile!). Your memory might be fuzzy at times. You’ve got a potbelly, and you sag. So what? Wasting time and energy worrying about the inevitable is . . . well, it’s a waste, and you don’t have time to squander. Things change, our bodies change; in fact, little stays the same over the years. It’s okay. Take a deep breath and get over it.

  • Stop throwing millennials under the bus. Yes, they’re cocky at times, but so were you at their age. Yup, they think they know more about life than they do; so did you once upon a time. Sure, they were raised in a world in which everybody has an equally correct opinion (which is silly because everybody can’t be right). But millennials can teach you a thing or two about compassion. They are famous for selfless service to those in need. And the young do know more than we sometimes give them credit for, so listen more and ask for their advice even if you don’t think you need it—because you do.

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As a pastor, I value both the old and the young (and all those in between). I want my church to be multi-generational because we are incomplete without all generations at the table.

Even when it’s challenging, we need each other, so let’s learn from each other and play nice.

The glory of young men is their strength, 

gray hair the splendor of the old.

Proverbs 20:29 (NIV)

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  1. Good read and true. I still have several blogs of yours saved to read! Yes I’ll be praying for you as you take a break to finish writing. Love you!

  2. Yup. I love my silver hair. I don’t like my aches & pains but my blessings far surpass those.

  3. Nice read Kurt … the thing I’m working on the most is the “Listen” part.

    BTW … nice pic of one of my favorite guitar players.

  4. Great blog Kurt. I will be praying for you. I hope when the time is right you can regale us of your considerable blogging wit and wisdom. Thank you

  5. Be praying for you as you complete your books. Will miss your blog posts! I always look forward to reading them. Such honesty and wisdom. God bless!

  6. Just read your blog to Tim. We appreciate your insight and wisdom! Looking forward to your new books. It’s SO gratifying to see God using you and Laura in multiple ways in the kingdom. 🙂

Five Things That Will Help You Survive a Crazy Family

Five Things That Will Help You Survive a Crazy Family
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Maybe you have a normal family. Perhaps your family gatherings are filled with laughter, joy, and peace. You might be counting down the days until your next birthday gathering or Christmas celebration with great expectation.

If so, I’m happy for you.

If not, welcome to the my-family-drives-me-crazy club.

Sometimes surviving family gatherings can be tough.

Family Tom_SelleckOne of my favorite TV programs is Blue Bloods. It’s a cop show about a New York City Police family. Every Sunday Grandpa and Dad (Tom Selleck) sits around a beautiful table with the entire family. The food is perfect, and no one ever misses the meal.

Occasionally, the conversation gets a bit heated, but it always ends well. Nobody gets up from the table and storms away in disgust. The young wait with bated breath to hear the sage wisdom of their elders. Even when they disagree, they do so with relative civility.

Wouldn’t that be nice?

But it’s not very true to life for most of us.

Trying to schedule a regular family dinner is nearly impossible in our busy world.

When we do get together, it’s more like controlled chaos than contemplative conversing. (Have you ever tried to carry on an adult conversation with multiple preadolescent children in the same room?)

Pet P Demo RepubThe young typically have little respect for the old, and the old often are baffled by the generations after them.

We may have come from the same genetic pool, but we frequently have extremely different views about everything from religion to politics. The reality of our differences lends itself to a good deal of conflict and some heated debates.

Family Survival 101 ought to be a prerequisite for graduation from high school or college!

But for now, what can you do to at least survive and maybe even thrive in your family situation?

  1. Accept your differences and adjust your expectations. At the heart of almost all conflict is an unmet expectation, and this is especially true when it comes to family. Different isn’t always bad. Certainly, there are core, biblical values that should matter to everyone (like honesty and humility), but just because grandma doesn’t have any body piercings or tattoos doesn’t mean she has the right to hold her grandchildren to the same standard. If you simplify your expectations to only what matters absolutely to God, conflict will be significantly reduced.TATTOO Woman Cup of Coffee

  1. Focus on what you have in common. Blood truly is thicker than water. Family is always important. I understand the dysfunctionality of some families and how easy it is to value friends over family. However, God takes the family bond very seriously, and so should you. Frankly, friends will come and go, but you’re stuck with family, so find something (anything) positive that you can emphasize, and celebrate that reality.

  1. Critic Are-you-listening-to-meEndeavor to understand more than to be understood. Listening is a lost art in our culture. Everybody has something to say, and most of us (myself included) work harder at being heard than hearing others. You will be surprised at how your relationships with your family are vastly improved when you do your best to be a great listener. “Be quick to listen and slow to speak.”

  1. Remember that it’s always more important to be relational than right. Yes, I’ve written this before. Yes, I will write it again. How “right” you might be doesn’t matter if you bulldoze someone emotionally from a position of your supposed superiority. Okay, so your son is a liberal Democrat, or your daughter is a redneck Republican. Don’t destroy your relationship over something as temporary as politics. Do whatever it takes to seek peace and to pursue unity.

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  1. Forgive as you have been (and would like to be) forgiven. Forgiveness is the glue that holds families together. When you wound a parent, sibling, or child (and you will), practicing a lifestyle of walking in forgiveness is imperative. When family members hurt you (and they will), your forgiveness is crucial to your health and the offender’s well-being. The bad news: humans hurt each other on a regular basis. The good news: God put you in your family to teach you how to walk in forgiveness.

Rejection is never the best method of overcoming your family struggles. It’s not okay to sever your relationship with a family member regardless of the extent of your disappointment.

Work hard to love your crazy Uncle Bob or your maniacal sister Bertha. Do the best you can to embrace both the normal and the not-so-normal in your family.

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Why?

Because they’re family and because someday you might be the whacky one needing unconditional love and acceptance. And if that’s not a good enough reason, do it because Jesus commanded us to do so.

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  1. Praise God for families! I love mine and Blue Bloods too, but when Tom Selleck was most known for Magnum, I remember his saying something about family keeping him grounded – or maybe he said “humbled.” Family can do that so well! They also help us to see what a terrible idea expectations can be. 🙂

  2. Well Cousin I have always said we are very normal until you get to know us. You words are so true. Are you sure you were using you and your kids as an example or was it me and my kids? The blog definitely speaks to me and my immediate family.

    Jeff

  3. Amen, Kurt! My father modeled such family behavior for us beautifully, keeping my dear, but opinionated, mom from inciting political discourse during mealtime. Yes, my family is all over the political spectrum, and it’s best if we talk about the weather. Lol!
    Blessings!

  4. thank you for the reminder…I need this for my in-laws..they are definitely different breed that the way i was raised…

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