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In the Event of My Death


What you are about to read is not written with any death-wish. I’m not suicidal, and I’m not trying to be morbid or gloomy for effect.


That being said, the older I get, the more I realize, death is real.


Not a real possibility, but an actual eventuality.


On this side of eternity, we all have an expiration date. 


As a human, and of course, as a pastor, I face death’s reality regularly. This past week, a dear woman in our church unexpectedly went to be with Jesus. Another Eastpointer, just a few days ago, lost her husband in a tragic accident.


I could go on, but I won’t. You’re already thinking about someone you’ve lost, and this is probably making you feel uncomfortable, if not depressed.


I’m sorry.


However, sometimes we need to pause and think about the unthinkable. There is wisdom sometimes in wrestling with things we’d rather ignore.


If you’re twenty-something, thirty-something, or maybe even fortyish, you may not think about death very often. You probably feel like you’ve got your whole life ahead of you. I get it.


Perhaps, with the global pandemic, you are a bit more aware of your mortality, but you may not have a last will, and you most likely haven’t given a second thought to your funeral. That’s okay.


By no means am I suggesting you get all morose and start selecting the songs for your memorial. Not yet.



But there are some things you might want to consider sooner than later.


  • Is there any relationship unattended to or broken that you don’t want to leave that way? What can you do to promote peace?


  • Is there something you need to ask forgiveness for or someone you need to seek out to be reconciled with before you go?


  • Have you considered what legacy you want to leave with your children and grandchildren? (By the way, I don’t mean money or inheritance; I’m referring to how you want to be remembered and what impact you might have even after you’re gone.)


  • Is there some family history that you’d like to pass on to the generations behind you? What do you wish you knew about your great-grandfather or great-great-grandma? The past can be a teacher and a source of inspiration for those in your wake. (It’s one of the reasons why I love to write and have published seven books to date.)


  • And lastly, if you knew the date of your death, what would you accomplish today or as soon as possible? I’m not referring to fixing the broken cabinet door. I mean, what potentially impactful task truly needs to be finished before you go? Maybe it’s time to stop procrastinating.



My dad died at sixty-three. (Did I mention I’m sixty-three?) I know, because he told me so, that there were a lot of things he regretted. There were also some things he always wanted to do (like writing a book) that he never prioritized and finished.


Here’s a crazy idea: Regardless of your age today, live as if today, and perhaps tomorrow, is all you have left.


Don’t live in fear.


Don’t live in a panic.


Don’t get stressed out about anything. (Stress is a killer. Literally.)


But do live.








A bucket-list might be a good motivator, but whatever you call it—create it and get started.






Life is too short and too precious to waste.


Live like every moment is a gift because it is.



Teach us to live well!

Teach us to live wisely and well!

Psalm 90:12 (MSG)

Kurt Bubna

Kurt W. Bubna has published seven books, is an internationally recognized blogger, conference and retreat speaker, as well as an experienced life and leadership coach. Bubna has over forty years of experience working with individuals, teams, and a wide variety of business and non-profit organizations.

This Post Has 14 Comments

  1. Patricia Annalee Kirk

    I also am not suicidal, and spend the days mostly in good humor. But as I get older, far from fearing death or dreading it, I want to be with the Lord. This world is not my home. I appreciate your advice to live our life. That is surely more pleasing to the Lord. Thank you.

    1. KurtBubna

      Me too, to be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord. I long for heaven…

  2. Chris Vickers

    Kurt, you are a constant source of inspiration. Thank you for this thought-provoking piece.

    1. KurtBubna

      And you, Chris, are a constant source of encouragement. Thank YOU. 🙂
      Love you guys!

  3. Mary H Sayler

    Kurt, thank you for drawing attention to this important issue. A legacy can be something unusual. i.e., After my father’s stroke in the mid-1980’s, he had several weeks of rehab, which included potting and tending a pretty spider plant. I still have that initial one, and my children have cuttings from it.

    Re my legacy: I have some nice things to hand down to my kids and grands, but the gift I most want to give is a Bible with my thoughts, prayers, and comments in the margins. The older 2 already have theirs, and the younger will get the one with notes from my Bible study discussion group.

    May God guide each of us in what we’re to give – especially no regrets! Blessings.

    1. KurtBubna

      I love your “legacy” examples! Most of all, I love that you’ve been intentional about passing something on…
      You are loved, Mary.

  4. Cindy Guenther

    Thank you Kurt, this is something I think about more then ever as I am 65 now.
    You have inspired me.
    Miss you,

    1. KurtBubna

      Funny how quickly we became senior citizens! 🙂
      Love and miss you guys too.

  5. Ginny

    Wow. At 85 i have a lot of these thoughts. A song by John Michael Talbot reverberates over & over in my heart: “Be not afraid. I go before you. Always. Come follow me and I will give you rest.” We all facing different paths, places, living, dying. Be not afraid He goes before you.
    A couple of things left on my bucket list…but they really not that important!

    1. KurtBubna

      I am very proud of you. Love you a ton!

  6. Dave Huffman

    Great piece. Thank you!

    1. KurtBubna

      Thank you, Dave!

  7. Julie

    Thank you Kurt!

    1. KurtBubna

      Thank you! Love and miss you guys!

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