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Can Pain Ever Be Good?

One of the greatest Christian thinkers and authors of the 20th century, C.S. Lewis, published a book in 1940 entitled The Problem of Pain. In this masterpiece, Lewis claimed that pain is only a problem “because our finite, human minds selfishly believe that pain-free lives would prove that God loves us.”


In other words, we tend to equate a life of ease and without pain as a life that verifies the love of God. However, Lewis is spot-on when he asserts, “Love demands the perfecting of the beloved,” because like gold, we are perfected in the fire of adversity.


Whether it’s physical pain or emotional pain (which is just as real but not always as obvious), pain and I are often attached at the hip. Of course, I pray for healing. My pain often drives me to my knees in prayer as it reminds me of my desperate need for God.


Whether we like it or not, and we typically do not like it at all, pain can be used to perfect us. We are, in fact, profoundly molded into the image of God’s Son through suffering. Even Jesus learned obedience through the things that He suffered (see Hebrews 5:8).



I know how this reality sits with most of us. We hate pain. We get angry about our suffering. We can’t imagine how a good and loving God could ever allow us to ache and agonize. Sadly, some of us have turned our backs on God precisely because of the suffering we have experienced.


In my early 20s, I walked away from God for a season screaming, “God, if this is the best you can do to take care of your kids (me), then I’m done trusting you with my life!”


I had a false belief that God existed to make me happy and healthy. I hadn’t figured out yet that He’s more focused on making me holy and always far more concerned with my character than my comfort.


Yes, life is so hard at times.


  • A dear friend of mine is experiencing deep emotional trauma right now.


  • A cousin suffered for years with the reality of breast cancer, and she recently passed away.


  • A guy I’ve known for years as a mental stud is losing his memory to Alzheimer’s.


  • A couple that has poured their lives into their children is dealing with the tragic rebellion of a son, and it’s breaking their hearts.


The pain and suffering of my friends and family makes my current struggles pale by comparison. But pain is still pain, and we can resent it or embrace it.



I choose to embrace what pain can produce in me.


Certainly, I will fight and contend for a miracle.


Not for a moment am I suggesting we just grin and bear it. I’m going to pray hard for God to intervene.


But in the meantime, and despite the struggle, I want to become better, not bitter.


I want to embrace my pain with patience and hope in a Father who always wants the best for me (even when I define “best” differently than He does).


Perhaps, we need a different perspective of pain. Maybe the suffering we know, and even the suffering that comes through the sin of others against us, can be a tool in God’s hand.


Some react, “Are you saying that I should be grateful for the sexual abuse I suffered as a child?!”


No. Never.


“Are you telling me to be happy about the tragic loss of my child?”


No. Not at all.


“Are you suggesting that somehow my pain and suffering can be redeemed and recycled by God?”


Yes. Absolutely.


Somehow, in a way that only God can accomplish, when we surrender our lives to Him (and I mean everything in our past, present, and future to Him), He uses it to change us.


God transforms our pain into a pathway to our perfection.



He restores us and then releases us to comfort others as He has comforted us. (See 2 Corinthians 1:4) As Lewis wrote, “"I am not arguing that pain is not painful. Pain hurts.” Of course it does, but pain is not the end of the story. (Please reread that last line again.)


God takes our brokenness, our suffering, our pain, and our wounds and He finds a way to use it to make us more like Jesus.


You can reject that reality or accept it. In case you’re wondering, I know from firsthand experience, that acceptance is the wiser and better way.


If you develop a trust in God that is not contingent on your comfort or hinged to your happiness, maybe, just maybe, your pain can become a blessing in your life.


May I pray for you?


Jesus, you know suffering. You know pain. You know betrayal and even death. But that wasn’t the end of your story, and it doesn’t have to be the end of ours. Hold us close. Take our hand through this valley of the shadows. Protect us from evil. Heal our broken bodies and broken hearts. And in the meantime, help us look beyond the now to the joy that will be ours someday, either in this world or the next. Amen.

“Let us look only to Jesus,

the One who began our faith

and who makes it perfect.

He suffered death on the cross.

But he accepted the shame as if it were nothing

because of the joy that God put before him.

And now he is sitting

at the right side of God’s throne.”

Hebrews 12:2 (NCV)


Kurt Bubna

Kurt W. Bubna has published seven books, is an internationally recognized blogger, conference and retreat speaker, as well as an experienced life and leadership coach. Bubna has over forty years of experience working with individuals, teams, and a wide variety of business and non-profit organizations.

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  1. Steve Petry

    God has a lot of divine appointments available for us to comfort others going through similar pain that we’ve experienced. We can sometimes be the answer to the prayer for help of people around us. Lord help me to be sensitive and keep my eyes open. Thanks for sharing this Kurt.

    1. KurtBubna

      Thanks, Steve, for adding to the conversation.

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