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Why I DON’T Want You to Attend Church Anymore

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There’s a lot of talk nowadays about how the Church in the United States is dead or dying. People point to all sorts of objective statistics or subjective opinions about why. You might imagine how I, as a pastor, find this of interest, and why I’ve invested a great deal of my time in researching this issue.



Frankly, the Church has changed dramatically in the last fifty years or so. I grew up in the church. All my Sunday mornings, Sunday nights, and Wednesday nights were spent at church. Add to that events like Royal Rangers, youth group, choir practice, and a potluck or two every month, and you can see how central the church was to my life.


Nobody played youth sports on Sunday. (I wasn’t even allowed to ride my bike on Sunday.)


No one would think of staying home from a church meeting to watch TV (not even football).


If the doors were open, we were there. End of story.


And here’s the thing: that was normal. Most of America went to Church, and if you were an evangelical, you attended a lot. An awful lot (and sometimes it truly was awful).


I’m grateful for my heritage. The church provided a place to make friends that did influence me. However, few of those who attended church impressed me with their godly character (myself included).



Church was a building.


Church was an event.


Church was a religious and social activity.


And attending church was more of a habit than a way of life.


Church was something I did. Something I showed up to on a regular basis. Something I attended, but not something that profoundly affected me at home, at school, or in the community I lived in.


Sadly, church attendance did very little for me or for anybody else as far as I could see.  That may seem harsh or overstated. But my religious experiences and activities didn’t do much to change my heart or the way I lived.


It seemed to me, growing up as a church attender, that too many—far too many—were good at being self-righteous white-washed tombs and not so good at being like Jesus Monday through Saturday.


Maybe you can relate; maybe not. But here’s my point: no one should just attend church. Instead, we should be the church.



God doesn’t want us to be religious but truly righteous. He doesn’t want consumers but contributors. Jesus didn’t call us to just attend a church building once a week. He challenged us to become a force that changes our world.


So, please don’t show up for church meetings, sing a few songs, listen to some guy or gal talk, drop a few bucks in the offering, glad-hand a few people, and then leave as if that were Church.


It’s not.


Sitting in your seat (and you do have a spot that’s yours), consuming some more “spiritual” food, and even clapping a bit doesn’t make you an effective disciple or follower of Jesus.


Good disciples—great disciples—do church together. They don’t just do meetings; they do life as partners. They are co-laborers committed to one single purpose, the advancement of God’s Kingdom and the fulfillment of His mission: to help people find and follow Jesus.


Great disciples serve others selflessly and sacrificially. They get off the bench and get into the game. They find needs and use their gifts to meet them through God’s grace and power.



Great disciples make it a priority to practice the teachings of Jesus at home, at work, and in their neighborhoods. Of course, they’re not even close to perfect, but they practice what they preach, and they never stop learning and growing.


Great disciples don’t just attend church. Instead, the Church is something they attend to with every ounce and fiber of their being because the Church is the Bride of Jesus, the Body of Christ, and the family of God.


For these amazing followers, Church is not a sacred place filled with pews, candles, and stained glass; it’s how they do life.



They understand that the Church is people. God’s forgiven and grace-filled people loving, learning, growing, serving, and caring for each other and the world in Christ’s name.


Certainly the Church is far from perfect and at times even messy. But it’s a fellowship of the broken who lay their lives down for one another because their Lord laid down His life for them.


So, let me be clear . . .


I’m not suggesting anyone stop gathering with the Church on Sundays. Our regular and faithful involvement in a worship service is essential to our growth.


In a church service on Sunday is where we celebrate together. That’s where we can learn from the teaching gifts God has given His Church. That’s where we can invite our friends and family to “come and see” because we know they will encounter something beautiful, authentic, and life changing.



So show up when the doors are open (not 15 minutes late, btw). God created DVRs so you could record the Seahawks and not miss a far better celebration of the saints!


As my pastor and friend Joe Wittwer loves to say, "You can’t truly be the church without attending. Church isn’t something I can be by myself. The word for Church in the New Testament was ekklesia, and it's the Greek word for a civic meeting. The church is people meeting together because of Jesus. You can’t eliminate the meeting part and still be the church.”


Of course, gathering with the Church matters. But please don’t just sit in a meeting. Don’t just attend without engaging. Don’t just do your church-thang a couple of times a month (the average for most, now), and think you’ve done your duty.


Be the church in every way, as both a force in the world and as a connected community of faith. Today. Now.


Demonstrate the radical love and power of Christ wherever you are.


Yup, I hope to see ya Sunday, and Monday, and Tuesday, and Wednesday . . . loving Jesus and being the Church everywhere, and all of the time.



24 Discover creative ways to encourage others and to motivate them

toward acts of compassion, doing beautiful works as expressions of love.

25 This is not the time to pull away and neglect meeting together,

as some have formed the habit of doing, because we need each other!

In fact, we should come together even more frequently,

eager to encourage and urge each other onward as we anticipate that day dawning.

Hebrews 10:24-25 (The Passion Translation)

Kurt Bubna

Kurt W. Bubna has published seven books, is an internationally recognized blogger, conference and retreat speaker, as well as an experienced life and leadership coach. Bubna has over forty years of experience working with individuals, teams, and a wide variety of business and non-profit organizations.

This Post Has 13 Comments

  1. Sabrina Maine

    Pastor Kurt I would like share how amazing it is how you can speak right to my heart and seem to address a topic I am struggling with big or small at that very moment. My son Brad and I have been attending Eastpointe now for awhile and have not stepped forward and really introduced ourselves and participated just as this writing addresses. By the way my name is Sabrina and we have enjoyed all the fellowship and felt completely accepted and welcomed from the very first day we walked in the doors. I was pleased to see my son continue to church on days I have been unavailable and even informed me he was signing up for rooted in january. Sundays have always been my favorite and starting at church then my son and I spend the whole day together and to get a single 26 yr old son to hang with mom for 12 hours can be difficult for some and I am truly blessed. Peace and love my friend

    1. KurtBubna

      Thank you, Sabrina, so glad you’re with us!

  2. Kay Anderson

    I remember the days of “attending” often, having the idea that I was the recipient–having no idea that I could encourage, build relationships and not just promise to pray but actually pray for those having needs on the spot and offer help where appropriate. What a different mind-set! My prayer is that we take the church with us wherever we go and our love in this hurting world will be so attractive that we draw in those who need Jesus.

    1. KurtBubna

      Thank you for adding to the conversation, Kay. You are loved.

  3. Rebecca Gump

    Brilliant my friend. I’m thankful for you. Happy Thanksgiving!

    1. KurtBubna

      Thanks Rebecca! Love you guys! Happy Thanksgiving!

  4. Jerry Nunes

    To the Church in America by the power that is within me, I make this statement!
    I would like to add to the comments: There is only one Chruch but many parts that make a whole. Too many folks see this as a “divided Church” but not so, it is a body made of hands, feet, limbs, torso and so on. Christ is the head of the Chruch and so we all should have the mindset of the Christ. It is all about the Christ, not the people but what we have to do with Christ the LORD; We need to experience Christ especially by submitting to the will of God, to be marked/characterized by His quality, attributes, and faculty as a way of life because the Christ is the way, the truth, and the life everlasting. In America today we have too many idols we put before God! This is idolatry in which there are many ways and means we put the Christ second or worse: By this, we limit God and the power thereof! Instead of being supermen in Christ we have exposed ourselves to Kryptonite so are weak and tried [sickly] not the Church of the Frist Born in Heaven. Wake up saints and put your hand to the plow and don’t look back but keep your mind steadfast in Christ because we trust in You LORD our God and savior [we have been redeemed].

  5. Devonne

    Love! Well written,,,

    1. KurtBubna

      Thank you. Appreciate the kind words.

  6. Sophie Davies

    Thank you Pastor Kurt! Have a blessed week!

    1. KurtBubna

      Thank you. You too!

  7. Jenny Lynch

    Thank you Kurt…you have summed up my Rooted experience. I let church become drudgery…one more thing I had to do. My heart is bursting now to be the salt and light…the hands and feet. God calls us to love Him and love people. It’s easy to love God…people are another story. Thanks for the reminder that loving people…the lost, the lonely, the hurting, the rejected, the sick… loving everyone and bringing them into the fold… is what it’s all about. I’m ready to attend to the mission, not just attend. Bless you as you shepherd and teach and love along the way!

    1. KurtBubna

      Thank you, Jenny, Rooted has been amazing (and I’ve enjoyed being in the group with you)!

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