A Friend Is . . .

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“A friend loves at all times. He is there to help when trouble comes” Proverbs 17:17 NIRV.

imageOver the years, I’ve had the fun-tastic pleasure of taking several motorcycle trips with great friends. Nothing puts a smile on my face more than riding the back roads of God’s country with the wind in my face and surrounded by buddies.

We laugh. We play. We ride hard. We see beauty beyond description and enjoy the delight of companionship.

Once on the way home from a trip to La Grande, I started to think about what makes a good friend. Here are some ideas I came up with:

• A friend is someone who invests time in the relationship.

• A friend is someone who listens (even when they’ve heard that story a hundred times).

• A friend is someone who protects you by pointing out the dangerous gravel and potholes along the way.

• A friend is someone who willingly shares with you (especially when you forget sunscreen or anything to clean your bug-smattered bike).

• A friend is someone who might tease you about snoring, but they’d never really complain.

• A friend is someone who is unafraid to say hard things in love.

• A friend is someone who looks you in the eye and says, “I love ya, man!” and you know they mean it.

What other qualities of a good friend can you think of? Do you possess these qualities as well?

What next?

If you read this and thought about a good pal, thank Jesus for that person, and pick up the phone to invite them to coffee soon.

If you read this and wish you had a friend, follow the advice my momma gave me decades ago, “If you want a friend, be friendly, and find someone looking for a friend just like you.”

May I pray for you?

Jesus, thank you for modeling perfect friendship so that by imitating you we can become friends who love at all times and help when trouble comes. Continue to show us how to serve each other in ways that please you. Amen.


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7 Responses to A Friend Is . . .

  1. I was thinking this same thought this morning. i have always tried hard to be a good friend to listen and be there for anyone who needs me I am going through a rough divorce. However when I need a friend no one has time or me. I asked for my friends help through this but no one came. I am trying to understand that they can’t or won’t listen and praying but its a difficult time for me now 🙁

    • So sorry, Melissa. Praying for you right now. May Jesus give you His strength and grace in the midst of your struggle. You are loved.

    • Melissa, I don’t know if this will help, but I’ve noticed how nurturing people often have no one to turn to when they need nurturing! It’s not that friends don’t care. It’s that they don’t have the same gift. Also, they’re apt to feel scared when the strong shoulders they rely on start to slump.

  2. Kurt, your definitions of “A friend IS” points to our Great God as I AM. Your post also made me think of the church Body of Christ with each part of that body meant to be BFFs with the Lord and one another. Since church unity is a life prayer theme for me, I’ll highlight this in the Christian Poets & Writers blog – http://christianpoetsandwriters.blogspot.com. God bless your good work and friendship in Christ.

    • So true, Mary! Thank you for adding to the conversation and reposting this on your site. Love it, love you!

  3. Kurt thanks for your insight about a friend. I am so blessed to have you as my Pastor. I learned long ago that one can normally count on one hand their true friends. They are the ones who are there for you before you even ask for help, and no matter how many miles separate you, when you see them again your friendship hasn’t missed a beat. Remember, “What a friend we have in Jesus” we all need to go to him in prayer. He is steadfast, faithful, and above all he cares, and loves us beyond belief. Love you Kurt!
    I will pray for you Melissa.

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